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The Best Book Ever for Beginning Writers

August 20, 2018 by Mickey Miller

I did a live feed today on Facebook where I talked about the best book for beginning writers.

If you are an aspiring creative, you’ll love this feed where I also talk about some of the psychological blocks writers and other artists have to overcome.

 

Here is a link the the Artist’s Way on Amazon:

Filed Under: Book Reviews, Writer's Life, Writing Tips Tagged With: Best Book for Beginning Authors, The Writer's Way

Artistic Families: Nature or Nurture

August 17, 2018 by Mickey Miller

I hung out with my Dad’s side of the family this weekend. I never realized how many artists there were…until my gf was like “damn is every single person in your family an artist? Now I see where you get it” 😉

I always thought I was sort of a misfit (heh) for being a writer. But apparently not so.
Oldest Uncle: Works for a major news station verifying sources
2nd oldest: Started a Magazine In Cleveland (Anyone remember when magazines were a thing?)
3rd oldest: Stock broker, plays in band (he had kids at a young age hence the stock broking)
4th-6th (Including my Dad): 2 part time musicians, one full time

And now Ze Cousins:
Oldest cousin: Went to Colombia in NY for Screenwriting masters
2nd oldest: Came very close to going all out on Improv in 90s (same time when Stephen Colbert + Steve Carroll were doing it), he should have. Tells a hell of a story. Also a writer
3rd: Had a full time rock band in Boston for 5+ years
4th: Writer and director of a local theatre, runs a podcast
5th: Majored in Theatre at University of Wisconsin, has a few small Hollywood acting credits
6th: Former Stockbroker (not sure what happened there)
7th: Played in a metal band, acts, lives in LA, we’re writing a screenplay together
8th: not sure
9th: Award winning writer of short non fiction (she’s only 22)
10th: Has yet to decide (she’s 18)
11th: Extremely talented musician songwriter, RIP
12th: Already plays the guitar and she’s not even a freshmen
13th: (Mickey’s sister) is a badass photographer

And then there’s me, of course.
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My Mom’s side of the family is the complete opposite for the most part. Aside from one trumpet player who is part of a famous band, my cousins on that side are mostly cops and carpenters.

This leads me to think, is it possible that something like art is hereditary?

My lay person opinion, citing no research, is that it’s more nurture than nature. I’ve always thought you can be anything if you have it modeled for you from an early age. I’ll have to give those “Twin studies” a fresh look.

I wonder if the number of artists on my Dad’s side of the family could be due to those skills being passed down, from father to son, from mother to daughter, etc. If you’re three years old and some0ne close to you is a writer, you already believe you can do it.

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Do you have any special skill that “runs in the family?”

Filed Under: Writer's Life Tagged With: Nature Versus Nurture

How Morning Pages Will Help You Conquer Writer’s Block

May 22, 2018 by Mickey Miller

Just about every writer, at some point in their career, deals with the dreaded condition commonly known as “Writer’s Block.”

Since I published my first book a few days before my thirtieth birthday in 2016, I have certainly gone through periods of creative abundance and drought. In my periods of extreme productivity, it seemed like I couldn’t hit the keyboard fast enough to get all the words out. There were also days where it was like wringing a dry washcloth to get a single drop of water out.

What is the difference between those productive periods and not-so-productive periods?

In other words, what is the cure for writer’s block? Is there even a ‘cure’ for writer’s block?

I’m going to get to that. But first, I think it’s important to dig a little deeper into what writer’s block is and where it comes from.

Here’s a quote from one of my favorite authors on writer’s block:

Most of the time, when we are blocked in an area of our life, it is because we feel safer that way.

-Julia, Cameron, The Artist’s Way

To me, this makes perfect sense. Most often, my inability to get words down on the page is due to some root fear or unaddressed feeling about myself and my own writing. It’s not that I’m blocked from writing, or that I lack ideas. Instead, it’s usually because of my own negative beliefs. Here’s a smattering of some of my own negative beliefs that have a tendency to crowd into my head:

-These thoughts I’m putting down are downright dirty, and I’m definitely going to hell, if there is a hell

-You’re weird, Mickey, and everyone will think that about you after you finish writing this book. Why do you enjoy writing romance? It’s a female genre.

-I’ll write bad work, not know it, and look like a fool

-My ideas aren’t good

-If I haven’t become a widely successful author yet, I’m not going to be one any time soon

Even as I read this list back to myself, I can tell many of the points are fairly irrational. Going to hell? Really? I don’t believe in hell. But, I was raised Catholic, so the idea of a fire and brimstone punishment still has the ability to creep into my writing and give me writer’s block. It’s actually a little creepy, isn’t it? But it’s true. Maybe you’ve had similar irrational thoughts.

Maybe some of what I’ve written down could be true, like the fact that romance is a mostly female genre. But if I’ve decided that I enjoy writing romance, that too is an irrational belief since I’m worried about how people are judging me.

I write this personal list of negative beliefs down to demonstrate that whatever is blocking you from writing doesn’t have to be rational. In fact, your writer’s block is likely made up of irrational negative beliefs that are deeply embedded within you. To steal a phrase from David Foster Wallace, these beliefs are like a fish in water. They’re all around you even if you don’t notice them.

Julia Cameron agrees. Here is a little more of her analysis of blocked creatives:

Negative Beliefs are exactly that: beliefs, not facts. Artists need not be drunk, crazy, broke, alone–or any of a number of our culture’s negative beliefs about them.

So how does one find these negative beliefs? You must explore and excavate them like a fish who explores the water. And the best tool for doing this is The Morning Pages.

The morning pages are such a simple tool, they are almost deceiving in their simplicity. But don’t be fooled. They are not to be underestimated.

How to do the Morning Pages and Beat Writer’s Block

  1. Set your alarm clock a half hour earlier. If a half hour is too intimidating, do fifteen minutes. And if that doesn’t work. Ten. I started out with five minutes. You must pick an amount of time that you can repeat daily.
  2. Write three pages in a notebook, longhand, about anything that comes to mind. If you can’t write three, write two. If not two, then one. The key is to start with something.
  3. The content you write DOES NOT MATTER. You want to focus on writing whatever comes to mind. From experience I can tell you that you might often right down stuff that seems ‘frivolous’ to you. Lean into this feeling. It’s normal. You’re not showing this writing to anyone. It is for you and you alone.
  4. Do this consistently, at least 5+ days per week. This is key. Essentially what this activity does is build your writing ‘muscle’ while creating a link between your subconscious and what you are writing.

This is a basic rundown. The morning pages are the closest thing to “magic” that exists when it comes to beating writer’s block. I still start almost every single day with writing morning pages and coffee. It’s a soothing form of mediation, and I’ve come to crave it. It settles me. Sometimes the morning pages seem whiny and trite. Other times, I’ll be writing about something insignificant when all of the sudden some big realization will set in. In any case, it clears away the noise of my mind to go and write whatever I need to write for the day.

If you would like to learn more about the morning pages and how to conquer writer’s block, I highly recommend picking up a copy of Julia Cameron’s book The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Creativity.

I am not exaggerating when I say I would not be a full time writer if I hadn’t read this book and followed through with the exercises, the most important of which are the morning pages. I consider my own mother a blocked creative, and I’ve actually bought The Artist’s Way book + journal combo for her as a summer gift. Of course, you don’t really need the ‘official’ journal. You can write in any old notebook you have laying around and start the morning pages right now. But I am a huge fan of the quotes that come in the official journal, like:

Because art is born in expansion, in a belief in sufficient supply, it is critical that we pamper ourselves for the sense of abundance it brings us.

It is quite possible, to be both an artist and romantically fulfilled. It is quite possible to be an artist and financially successful.

Think of the mind as a room. In that room we keep all of our usual ideas about life. The room has a door. That door is ever so slightly ajar, and outside we can see a great deal of dazzling light.

– All quotes from Julia Cameron’s Writing Journal.

I will admit that after I filled up the first official writing journal in a little over twelve weeks, I become obsessed with extra large Moleskin notebooks which are the only journal I use now. I highly recommend them. There is just something special about moleskins. I use the unlined version (you know, because creatives can’t stay between the lines and all that). They are a tad on the pricey side for a simple notebook, and I’m sure there are less expensive options out there as well. What can I say, I have an addictive writing habit.

I’m also going to give away a copy of both books this week to one lucky person in my Facebook Group, Mickey’s Writing Mill. All you have to do is comment on the post about what you think is your biggest negative self-belief and where you think it comes from, and share this blog post somewhere.

Please also let me know what you think about this behind-the-scenes post. I’ve never written one quite like this, but judging from the questions I’ve been getting in the Facebook group I felt it would be useful.

If you’ve ever thought about writing seriously, I’ll leave you with this quote from a living writing legend. He didn’t sell his first screenplay until he was in his thirties, and he wrote it while still working full time as a lawyer.

Of the people 100 people I’ve given [the book] to, maybe ten of them have actually opened the book and done the exercises. Of those ten, seven have had books, movies, TV shows, and made out successful.

-Brian Koppelman, writer of such screenplays as Rounders and Billions

Writing is a form of magic. You are creating something (your own story with unique characters) where there once was nothing.

I wish you the best of luck on your writing journey and your morning pages.

Filed Under: Book Reviews, Writer's Life, Writing Tips Tagged With: How to Beat Writer's Block, The Artist's Way, The Artist's Way Book Review

My Crazy Goals For 2018

January 1, 2018 by Mickey Miller

I thought a lot about how to phrase this post, about how to come off as a ‘professional’ author and not someone who is just starting up. I kept thinking ‘how would a professional author write a blog post about his goals for the year?’

I realized I was overthinking this completely. I am what I am right now–an author who has had some decent success in the past as a part time author including a few #1 Bestsellers in their categories. But if I am being honest I am not JK Rowling or Stephen King nor should I pretend to be better than I am. An important part of getting better is being honest about where you are in the process.

I am on the “come-up” of my writing journey right now and I love being as transparent about that. It’s part of what makes being an author in this day and age fun: my readers get to come on the journey with me and see me (hopefully) mature into a writer who consistently writes amazing hit books that they love.

That being said, I want to post my goals in a public place like this blog. Isn’t one of the ways you stick to your New Year’s resolutions by saying them publicly?

So here goes, here are my resolutions for 2018 (and my predictions):

Goal #1) Write One Million Words.

This goal sounds a little crazy, I know. But, if you do the math, it’s actually attainable-ish. I aim to write 3,000 words per day minimum, six days per week. (Sunday is a rest day as a famous mechanic once said). So that’s:

365 days in a year – 52 sundays not writing = 313 days writing in a year

3,000 words x 313 days = 939,000 words

Okay, nevermind–I’ve got to write a few of those Sundays too, or up the word count (did I mention I set crazy goals?)

In this total I’m counting novel + blog writing into one. Even today, I’ve got around 3500 words done.

Prediction: I’ll come close. Editing may take a lot more time then I anticipate, but I’m pumped and energetic right now, and writing is my #1 priority this year. Malcolm Gladwell’s famous saying that it takes “10,000 hours” to master something is mostly true from what I’ve seen, so I’ve got to put in the work this year since I quit my job, no way around it.

I’ll be updating this goal on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook with the Hashtag #OneMillionWords!

 

Goal #2) Read 52 Books.

When I’m in writer-mode, I have a tendency to get obsessive about whatever I’m writing, but it’s important for me to keep reading! A book a week is aggressive so Thank God I’ve got my Audible Subscription because I’m a huge audiolover and I can listen to books faster than I can read that’s just the facts.

Prediction: I start out strong but have a month in there where I get off track. We’ll see.

I’ll be updating this goal this year with the Hashtag #52Books!

 

Goal #3) Make a Short Film (or Music video)

I had the goal last year to make a music video, which I (kind of) did when me and my cousin did a live feed where we sang songs and played guitar.

This goal is going to be a little bit more difficult for me since I basically have no training in film, production, nor do I even have a fancy camera. But–this is a stretch goal and I’m putting this one out there.

Prediction: I’ll need to meet some people in the film space to get this one done. But one of my favorite quotes is “take one step toward God and he takes two steps toward you” so just by putting this out there who knows what can happen!

 

Goal #4) Memorize the words/chords to my Dad’s band’s set list

Completely unrelated to writing, but nonetheless important to me. Some of you may know that I play guitar with my Dad, uncle and cousin in a local band. Currently I read music to follow along and I would like to get to the point where I have memorized the set list! Pretty simple

Prediction: I’ll get this one done because it’s important to me.

 

Goal #5) Don’t be a hermit – have dinner with one friend or family member per week

I’m the worst sometimes. I get really into writing and don’t text my friends for weeks (sometimes months). And hey I know the phone works both ways but I love my friends and family and I want to make a concerted effort to meet them up this year because life is short.

Prediction: I will get better at this one as the year goes on because Winter in Chicago makes it not as fun to get together.

 

That’s all – five goals is plenty. Any more and “I’m kidding myself” as my high school P.E. teacher used to say.

Tomorrow I’ll be posting about how I did on my goals for 2017!

Happy 2018 everyone!

What is one goal you have this year?

Filed Under: Writer's Life Tagged With: 52 Books, Crazy Goals, New Years Resolutions, One Million Words

Why I quit my job to write full time (and why it’s a bad idea)

December 31, 2017 by Mickey Miller

On December 29th, 2017, I worked my last day in the office at my day job as a sales rep at one of the biggest technology companies in the U.S.

As I took the elevator down and out of the skyscraper yesterday, a pang of nervousness nipped at me. Questions that I hadn’t thought about suddenly arose in my mind:

Why are you quitting a stable job right as you’re about to get a promotion?

What will you do for a 401k and benefits?

Why don’t you work just a little bit longer?

I pushed those thoughts out of my mind as I left the building for the last time, because in my heart of hearts, my head just wasn’t in the game of selling technology any more. I was very fortunate to have the job, don’t get me wrong.

But something hit me one day in December, and I realized every day I spent at the job was one more day less I would be writing full time–which has been my goal for a long time and is my goal to do forever. I plan on writing until I’m 90 or whenever my fingers stop working or people don’t want to read my crazy shit any more.

And I’m so damn happy about that.

For the last three years, this has been my office:

Two full winters passed sitting at that cubicle…I wouldn’t even see the sun during the afternoon, since as you can see the wall blocks it.

I liked my job, but the environment was a little bit depressing and drab, to be honest. Not like I won’t be using a computer when I write my books, but at least I’ll be able to use my imagination.

After writing eight books this year, including an Amazon bestselling romantic comedy and a few others that didn’t do so bad, this seemed like the perfect time to make the jump.

And then, of course, I realized that December is the month that no one reads. And I didn’t have a release coming out until the end of the month.  I double checked my sales, and wondered, how the hell am I going to live off that? I’m going to be eating ramen for the rest of my life.

I even thought about telling my boss I wanted to reverse my two weeks and stay a little longer.

But in the end I didn’t really care. As corny as it is, I’m doing what I love which is writing books and writing romances.

But still, I wouldn’t recommend quitting to write–unless you are making many times what your day job is.

Or unless you’re a crazy man like me.

Come with me as I chronicle the journey.

This year could go down in flames, but hey, at least I can say I went for it.

I’ll be posting a lot more on the blog this year about writing, my books, and the mindset it takes to make it as an entrepreneurial spirit in this world. And sure maybe delving into the question I get asked a lot which is why would a guy write romance?

Here’s to a hellavu ride in 2018!

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Filed Under: Writer's Life, Writing Tips Tagged With: Full Time Romance Author, How to quit your job to become a romance author, Romance Writing

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